July 8, 2009

Eternal friendship - Une amitié éternelle

Je réalise la profondeur de l'amitié forgée lors de mon séjour ici en 1981. La force d'une forme d'amour et de respect de l'autre et de ses différences. La possibilité de l'amitié homme-femme entre une canadienne-québecoise et un philippin. Le lien presque frère-soeur qui nous unit... même après tout ce temps.

Manuel Novio, mon partenaire aux Philippines dans le cadre du projet "Jeunesse Canada Monde" de 1981, est un frère pour moi. J'ai eu la chance cette fois-ci de connaître et de rentrer dans sa famille. De devenir amie et confidente de son épouse (ce qu'on a ri ensemble) et de connaître ses deux garçons (en fait, je devrais dire "ses 2 hommes"). Une famille extraordinaire! Bien des gens doutent que l'amitié homme-femme puisse exister, et bien, je peux vous assurer que si!

J'ai revu Zaida, Claudio, Fe, Marie-Hope, Ester... Si la météo l'avait autorisé, j'en aurais rencontré bien plus le 26 juin dernier....Avec chaque personne, un lien indéfectible, un lien qui surprend par sa force et son authenticité. Une amitié sans frontière uniquement possible que lorsqu'on a partagé des expériences de vies fortes et significatives ensemble.C'est impressionnant de revenir dans la vie des gens, qu'on vous ouvre la porte sans gêne pour vous y inviter avec tout ce que la vie a pu apporter de beau, de difficile, d'extraordinaire et de souffrances. Ouvrir la porte à la vraie vie, sans censure. Simplement. Une amitié internationale et éternelle


Eternal friendship

I realize the depth of friendships forged when I was here in 1981: the strength of a form of love and respect for others and their differences, the possibility of man-woman friendship between a Canadian and a Quebec-Philippines. A kind of brother-sister link that unites us, even after all this time.

Manuel Novio, my partner in the Philippines as part of the "Canada World Youth" project of 1981, is a brother to me. I was lucky this time to meet and become part of his family. To become friend and confidante of his wife (how much we laughed) and to meet his boys (who are now 2 men). What an extraordinary family! Many people doubt that the friendship between men and women may exist. Well, I can assure you that it can!

I have met again Zaida, Claudio, Fe, Marie-Hope, and Ester. If the weather had permitted, I would have met many more on June 26.With each person, an unbreakable link, a link that surprises by its strength and authenticity. Friendships without borders made possible because we shared strong and meaningful experiences together.It is impressive to return to people's lives. That they would open their door without discomfort, to invite you with all that life has been able to provide, with its share of beauty, difficulty, extraordinary, and sufferings. Opening the door to real life, without censorship. Simply. An international and eternal friendship.

Working in a sari-sari in Quezon (metro Manila)

After the mention of "sari-sari" in one of my travel notes, a few weeks ago, I spent the evening yesterday working in one in a popular district of Quezon. This is my friend's Zaida shop. She taught me the secrets of a sari-sari: how to empty a bottle of soda in a small plastic bag for passersby, the price of all items in individual bags (coffee, soap, salt, pepper, shampoo, flavored broth, cooking oil, or candles). She explained that some people manage to extract 2 or 3 uses from these single portions. I met people from the area (youth, children, a transvestite, which is very common in the Philippines). I met the locals! They were all surprised at the sight of the new "sales clerk". I laughed with the children who helped me remember to say "Balikan" to each customer ("come back soon"). I even scared a few clients who thought they were seeing a "white lady", a ghost. Oops! Sorry!I appreciated being introduced to the sari-sari business. This was the occasion to enter the reality of the neighborhood, and to share their lives, simply. It's great to have a good friend like Zaida, who allowed me to experience this.It's great to have so many good friends in another country!I feel privileged.

Vendeuse dans un sari-sari à Quezon (Manille métropolitain)

Après avoir parlé des
"sari-sari" dans une de mes notes de voyage, il y a quelques semaines, j'ai passé la soirée d'hier à y travailler, dans un quartier populaire de Quezon. Il s'agit de la boutique de Zaida. Elle m'a appris tous les secrets d'un sari-sari... comment transvider une bouteille de boisson gazeuse dans un petit sac en plastique pour vendre aux passants, le prix de tous les objets en sachets individuels (café, savon, sel, poivre, shampoing, bouillon de saveur, huile à cuisson, chandelle, etc.). Elle m'a expliqué que certaines personnes ménagent les sachets individuels pour en soutirer 2 ou 3 usages. J'ai pu rencontrer les gens du quartier (des jeunes, des enfants, un travesti, ce qui est très commun aux Philippines). Les gens de l'endroit quoi! Ils étaient tous étonnés de la nouvelle "sales clerk" (vendeuse) de l'endroit. J'ai surtout bien rigolé avec les enfants qui m'aidaient à me rappeler de dire "Balikan" au départ de chaque client ("revenez-nous"). J'ai fait peur à quelques clients (pensant voir une "white lady", un fantôme). Oups! Désolée!J'ai bien apprécié être initiée au métier de tenancière de sari-sari. Ce fût l'occasion de rentrer un peu dans la réalité du quartier et partager de leur quotidien, simplement. C'est génial d'avoir une grande amie comme Zaida qui me permette de vivre ceci.C'est génial d'avoir autant de grands amis dans un autre pays!!Je me sens privilégiée de vivre ça.
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July 5, 2009

Canada World Youth Participant In Action

Dear Elise,

What a pleasant surprise! After viewing your blog and reading the reply of the Ayala Foundation to your request, I was overwhelmed with the enormity of Canada World Youth working through you!

When we said our goodbyes at the airport, I was afraid to shed tears because of that joke as to who is the real crying lady between you and Mary Hope. Now it can be told that I am the real crying queen when I learned that Ayala Foundation is doing its best to reach out to my students! You bet, I was like crazy crying, laughing at the same time never mind if my staff were puzzled with my sudden outburst.

I left at least two days to pass by without answering your e-mail and allowed myself a little time to enjoy this moment of complete joy and deeper appreciation for the kind of person we had become because of Canada World Youth. I tried to retrieve of what was left of my memorabilia- from old pictures to journals that carried articles about us and our engagement while we were in the program and read the content of our certificate of participation almost a hundred times. It gave me intense pride to have been part of Canada World Youth and found new meaning to this embodiment -
Our responsibility to foster international relations and to serve humanity is a lifetime commitment. It did not end when we went back to our respective homes and communities we will carry it for as long as we live.



If Jacques Hebert (note from Elise: the founder of CWY) were alive today, he would be proud to have founded this wonderful organization and see these young people now grown up and living up to the legacy of fostering international development, community development and cultural exchange.

Now back to your initiative, it was such a brilliant idea for you to have asked Ayala Foundation to allow our students to visit their museum. For many years now, the Ayala Foundation has been helping schools throughout the country in providing computer units through their computer literacy program. Because of the scarcity of resources in the country, we usually ask from our donors things we need to be globally competitive like computers, LCDs and books. My school per se has been a recipient of 10 computer units from Ayala Foundation and if indeed this free visit will materialize, I will consider it a bonus!

What more can I say to you my friend, Maraming Salamat mula sa kaibuturan ng aking puso! (Thank you from the deepest recesses of my heart.)

A friend forever,
Zaida

Note from Zaida: For the last two years, we didnt have a field trip because of austerity measures. A field trip will cost a student 500 pesos as this include entrance fees to historical sites and museums, and bus fares. Usually only about 20% of the entire school population can afford to join in field trips.

Note#1 from Elise: with the help of the Ayala museum there would be no cost charged or fee to the students - so all the children of the school could participate to the learning activity.

Note#2 from Elise: Jacques Hebert (not the founder of CWY but the one who participated in RP-CWY in 1982-1982 , and our great friend) has personally offered 100$ to contribute to the materialization of this empowering-heritage discovering event for the children of Zaida's school.

If others are willing to contribute - let me know



Jeunesse Canada Monde en action

Chère Elise,

Quelle agréable surprise! Après avoir regardé ton blogue et lu la réponse de la Fondation Ayala à ta demande, j'ai été débordé par l'ampleur de l'effet de Jeunesse Canada Monde qui se manifeste par ton entremise!

Lorsque nous avons fait nos "au revoir" à l'aéroport, j'ai eu peur de pleurer à cause de cette blague, à savoir qui d'entre toi et Marie-Hope est la vraie reine des pleurs. Maintenant, il peut être dit que c'est moi la vraie reine des pleurs, car lorsque j'ai appris que la Fondation Ayala faisait de son mieux pour aider mes élèves, j'ai beaucoup pleuré! C'était un mélange de pleurs de joie et de rires, sans trop me soucier de ce que penserait mon personnel enseignant, qui était étonné de me voir ainsi.

J'ai laissé au moins deux jours passer sans répondre à ton courriel, ce qui m'a permis de profiter de ce moment de joie et de profonde gratitude pour le genre de personne que nous sommes devenus au contact de Jeunesse Canada Monde. J'ai tenté de récupérer ce qui restait de mes souvenirs, de vieilles photos et des articles de journaux qui portaient sur nous et notre engagement alors que nous étions dans le programme. J'ai lu et relu le contenu de notre certificat de participation près d'une centaine de fois. Il m'a donné une intense fierté d'avoir participé à Jeunesse Canada Monde et j'ai trouvé un sens nouveau à cette mission -
notre responsabilité est de favoriser les relations internationales et de servir l'humanité en tant qu'engagement à vie. Ceci n'a pas pris fin lorsque nous sommes revenus à la maison et dans nos communautés. Nous porterons cette devise en nous aussi longtemps que nous vivrons.

Si Jacques Hébert (note d'Elise: le fondateur de JCM) étaient encore en vie aujourd'hui, il serait fier d'avoir créé cette magnifique organisation et de voir ces jeunes, maintenant adultes et à la hauteur de l'héritage favorisant le développement international, le développement communautaire et les échanges culturels.

Maintenant, revenons à ton initiative, c'était une idée tellement géniale que tu aies demandé à la Fondation Ayala de permettre à mes élèves de visiter ce musée et cette magnigifique expostion sur l'héritage philippin pré-colonial. Depuis de nombreuses années, la Fondation Ayala à aider les écoles dans tout le pays en fournissant des ordinateurs par l'entremise de leur programme d'alphabétisation en informatique. En raison de la rareté des ressources dans notre pays, nous demandons de nos donateurs de nous aider à devenir compétitifs au plan international par des dons comme des ordinateurs, des écrans LCD et des livres. Notre école a ainsi bénéficié de 10 ordinateurs de cette Fondation et si cette visite gratuite se réalise, je considère que ce sera un bonus!

Que puis-je te dire de plus mon amie, Maraming Salamat mula sa kaibuturan ng aking puso! (Merci du plus profond de mon coeur.)

Une amie pour toujours,
Zaida

Note de Zaida: Pour les deux dernières années, nous n'avons pas pu faire de voyage de fin d'année en raison des mesures d'austérité économique. Un voyage pour un étudiant coûte 500 pesos, ce qui inclut les droits d'entrée aux sites historiques et les musées, ainsi que le trajet en autobus. Habituellement, seulement environ 20% de l'ensemble de la population étudiante peut se payer de telles activités.

Note d'Elise#1: avec l'aide du musée Ayala, il n'y aurait aucun coûts ou frais imputés aux étudiants - ceci permettrait à tous les élèves de l'école de participer à l'activité d'apprentissage.

Note d'Elise#2: Jacques Hébert (pas le fondateur de JCM, mais celui qui a participé à RP-JCM en 1982-1982, et notre grand ami), a personnellement offert 100$ pour contribuer à la matérialisation de cette visite au musée et permettre aux élèves de l'école de Zaida d'aller à la découverte de leur propre patrimoine.

Si d'autres sont prêts à contribuer - laissez-le moi savoir.

July 3, 2009

Ayala Museum - gold from ancestors - for the children of Quezon

The adventure continues!

The Ayala Museum has responded positively to my request to open its doors to the children of Zaida's school. They offered a huge discount to the entry fee. I had to tell them that even a small amount was a lot to pay for these children as these children are not privileged.... and this is their response:

"Dear Ms. Renaud,
The museum will look for companies and organizations that will be willing to sponsor the admission of the students. I will get back to you as soon as we get a response."

I just hope the adventure continues and that these kids can be empowered by all the beauty of their heritage.

Salamat po to the Ayala Fondation and the Ayala Museum. This is a beautiful gesture. I really hope it materialises.

Interesting articles on this exhibit:

Le musée Ayala - l'or de nos ancètres - pour les enfants de Quezon

L'aventure continue!

Le Musée Ayala a répondu positivement à ma demande d'ouvrir ses portes aux enfants de l'école de Zaida. Ils ont offert un considérable rabais au prix d'entrée. J'ai toutefois dû leur préciser que même un petit montant est trop élevé pour ces enfants, car ces ils ne sont privilégiés .... et voici leur réponse:

"Madame Renaud, Le musée cherchera des entreprises et des organisations prêtes à parrainer l'admission des étudiants. Je vous recontacterai dès que nous aurons une réponse."

J'espère que l'aventure continuera et que ces enfants pourront réaliser, à l'aide de cette visite, toute la beauté et la richesse de leur patrimoine pré-colonial.

"Salamat po" à la Fondation Ayala ainsi qu'au Musée Ayala. C'est un très beau geste. J'espère vraiment que cela se réalise.

July 2, 2009

Message of Zaida - Just to let you know how you are sorely missed

On Thu, Jul 2, 2009 at 6:53 AM, Zaida Padullo wrote:

DEar Elise,

I was so happy to read your blog and thank you you appreciated our friendship. Me and Mary Hope cannot thank you enough for the wonderful person that you are. Your three days stay with my family opened my eyes to a lot of realizations including my own need to know more about my country's history. I thought, history is the responsibility of the Social Studies teachers and the head of that department. Never did i realize, that we will never be able to love much and be proud of our own country if we do not know our rich culture, if our knowledge of our history are restricted to the discovery of our country by Magellan and who became the leaders after.

More than this, i was even more amused with your love for the people in this side of the world and it gives me now a feeling of security in who i am, because you Elise, made us so proud to be Filipinos. Looking back, i smiled at the thought of you getting sick by eating at least 14 mangoes in two hours. Your love for langka, kinilaw, adobo and even spending on an expensive Barong when we Filipinos are crazy with the corporate attire you western people wear to the office are sweet memories that will pleasantly haunt me in my sleep.

Thank you Elise, you have taught me lessons in life that will make me a better person, and sure a better citizen of this country. How many more Elise will wake us up for taking for granted our rich culture and heritage? it is not yet too late for us Filipinos.

Missing you my friend,

Zaida

Marie Hope Birthday - July 3rd

Maligayang Bati sa iyong kaarawan - Happy Birthday to You Mary Hope
Bon anniversaire chère amie !!!

Mary Hope is the strongest women I know, she can make vanish the worst obstacles of life and still hope and care for the rest f humanity. She is now carrying a battle against the coming of genetically modified organisms (GMO) in her province. She is one of my singing partner (Zaida and Ester are my other partners) . Mary Hope has always been a sunshine wherever she goes.

I love you

Elise

The words of a friend

J'ai passé les derniers jours chez ma copine Zaida in Quezon Metro Manila. She lives in a 4 storeys house with a garden on the roof overlooking the city. Her husband Romeo is the perfect complement of Zaida, they live in a smooth harmony that is a pleasure to witness. He cooks Zaida prefered fish dishes even if he himself is allergic to it! Wow, that is true love in action... They have 2 children, one adolescent (not quite yet appreciating true pinoy food- but he was willing to try some) and the oldest son is finishing his nursing course. They had lost one child many years ago, to tetanos reaction. This hurtful experience has made them grow. Now Zaida is more beautiful than ever and she gained a luminous glow - a genuine gentleness.

She is the principal of a public high school in Quezon. I will have to write about this school as it is a microcosme of the socio-economic situation of the country (overcrowded, no ressources but with the willingness of the people they make miracles every single day, with a smile).

On the 26th of June I had spoken to Zaida about the Ayala exposition - Gold of the past. I wanted to share my adventure, my experience. I would had wish that all her students could visit this exposition and learn and cherish this heritage. I even went to the extent to write to the Ayala Fondation to make the request. Zaida does not know about my initiatve. I will let her know only if it is successful.

Just the night before I left, she told me she had made a speach to her teachers (chez has around 100 teachers or more - it is a 5 000 student school). She told me she spoke about me and my stay in the Philippines in her motivational speach. She mentionned I had given her a wake-up call! When she read in my blog about the 1000 pesos bill that pictures the Palawan funeral bowl... and realised she didn,t even knew about it... and many other things I was discovering...

"That a foreigner knew more about her country than her, when it is her job to transfer to the younger generations pride of their nation and knowledge of it!"

She took a 1000 pesos bill out of her purse and asked her staff if they knew what was depicted on it and why. No one responded, no one knew. She realised that they knew a lot about the latest gossip of international stars, their latest frivoilities... but not much about their own heritage and history. She told them to take exemple on my experience and be willing to learn about the beautiful Philipino heritage. She tryied to transmit my love to learn about it to them.

When she told me that... just as I was preparing my departure, I cried.
If my mother would had been alive, she would had been very proud.